“When you truly love someone, I’m not certain if there’s really an “I am over it” but if there’s one great reason why break-up isn't all that bad is because I’m grateful for this opportunity to have gotten to know myself even better.” -Carmela
A breakup is probably one of the most painful things that could happen to us. Both parties may choose to cut ties for different reasons and situations. Sakit kaayo noh? They say time will certainly heal a broken heart, but it’s never an easy process.
The first few days after the breakup can be the most fragile time of your emotional self. You ask a lot of questions: Why me? Why do these things hurt so bad? What did I do to deserve this? Am I not enough? #Heartbroken. The painful thing is... sometimes, you don't get the answers. Closure is not always possible.
It’s difficult to cope with these things. You may ask yourself (or Google), “how do I get over my ex? What can I do to be myself again?”
Ipadayag Digital interviewed two different singles – Carmela and Peter – who both experienced heavy breakups over the quarantine. We asked them the hard question: How do you cope with the breakup process?
5 ways to get over your ex:
1. Cut off your contact with them
“It’s really hard to detach from an almost perfect kind of relationship. If cutting contact with your ex means facing the truth then you have to do it,” said Carmela.
Yes, detach yourself from your ex! When you keep tabs on your ex, you're going to end up disturbing your peace of mind. Take this as an opportunity to recover on your own.
A relationship author Jennifer Gonzales, says “If your ex might want to contact you even after the breakup, it will certainly make it harder for you to forget them. You have to be respectful but mindful of your needs.”
2. Focus on other important areas of your life
“You never know, at some point when you are still in a relationship with your partner, there are things you tend to neglect which are your priorities,” said Carmela.
Use the pain to your advantage. Now that you have no one else to focus on, focus on yourself!
You can redirect your path. Make choices so you can be a happier and better version of yourself. The important areas you could focus on are your health, your work and career, and especially your goals and dreams. Make sure you know what you want.
3. Spend time with your family and friends
“Being with your loved ones is very important since they are always there to support and comfort you in both times of joy and sadness,” said Peter.
It’s tough to get through this by ourselves, diba? That’s why it’s best when both families and friends are there for us. Talking to them will surely make you feel better because they are the only people in this world who are there for you each and every day.
A psychotherapist Tina Tessina says, “See your closest friends and family and spend time with them. They'll help you heal, and remind you that you still have people who love you.”
4. Learn to forgive and forget
“Take everything one step at a time. Di mag dali, feel the grieving period. Also, learn to forgive and forget the past,” said Peter.
You can learn how to forgive and make peace with what happened in the past. When you take your focus off what happened and let go of the grudge you are holding onto, forgiving and forgetting will be easier for you.
It’s better to forgive the person and forget the past rather than sulking on bitterness and hatred. You improve when you keep moving forward.
5. Show more love and compassion for yourself
Make yourself happy by doing the things you love and enjoy – alone. Do something nice for yourself: watch a movie, travel to places you’ve never been to, or even buy that new set of clothes you were dying to get for months!
This is a great thing you can do for yourself because you are putting your needs first. See this as an opportunity to know yourself better and learn things on your own.
So far, both Carmela and Peter are doing great with their new lives as singles. They were able to overcome their breakups by focusing on the best love out there: self-love.
How do we focus on self-love?
Show yourself some love by prioritizing your own needs and doing what makes you happy. Give yourself a break and find your happy place, a place where you can do things you love. Doing these things will make you feel at ease and more positive about embracing what you want to do.
You can develop a self-care routine, start a new diet and exercise, go on a hike, or even read a book and meditate. #MeFirst 💕
By consistently giving time to yourself and by not giving up, you can expect great results. At the end of the day, you can say, “I love myself,” with a big smile plastered on your face. With that, you can #BeConfident #BeYOU 😊
Congrats again on the 2nd article! 🥰
Kudos to the writer! Very realistic ha murag base jud sa experience hmp! Hahahah mwapsss 💋
In short, love yourself first before you can truly love others. Remember you can never pour something into another (let's say a cup) if the one that you're holding is empty. Be patient and trust the process because someday it's all going to make sense. :)
Btw love the pics used in the articles (most especially the 1st step because she's Lee Da Hee, one of my fave Korean actresses hihi)
Trueee🥰🥰💜💜💜